A Weird Day

[gonzai]

It's been oddly up and down...

Originally I was supposed to be at a memorial service for my uncle, but his friends didn't want to have one and finally said so a few days ago. So no service. And between the short notice and a broken toe, I didn't think going to the 'restore sanity' gig was a good idea. So no big whoops today.

Went on another 'ornament quest' to Westminster - no ornaments there. They did still have DecoColor pens, which they're clearing out, so I was able to stock up on some colors I could use. Then gaming - a place that usually goes Friday nights when I'm too tired, but ran Saturday this time. Finally learned to play Maori, more than a year after it was first suggested to me.

Home was different too. Did woodburning for the first time in a year instead of doing ornaments. Killed my hand in the process.

Last but not least, I had to unfriend someone who was pretty much the first person I ever friended. We've been RL friends for almost 10 years and often roomed/rode together to events, but she's decided she doesn't want to be friends with anyone who won't switch to Dreamwidth. I'm on more sites/networks/etc than I'm comfortable with in the first place and I don't like being ordered to do something. And she pretty much announced that if you won't switch, then unfriend her. So I did. Not happy about it but I figure it's really her decision - she's the one giving ultimatums. Sad, but clearly we're no longer on the same page, literally.

Comments

[sidewinder.livejournal.com]

You missed the point of what I said in my post. Maybe I said it poorly because I was pissed off-I had a shitty day after a shitty week.

And yes, I was angry - because I was basically told by someone *else* tonight they were unfriending me because they couldn't be bothered to set up a DW account to comment on my journal, that it must not mean that I wanted to be friends with *them*. When I've clearly, repeatedly explained in my journal my issues with LJ at this point and their policies, and my uncomfortableness with them trying to integrate with FB and Twitter as much as possible hence my turning LJ comments off. Their long-delayed response to the whole commenting fiasco just was too little too late for me.

I've repeatedly offered up DW accounts to anyone who wished for a code - even if just to comment on mine (and other's) DW accounts, if they never used it for anything else. It only takes a few extra key strokes to log in and place a comment. I really don't see how that is so hard, when for me it IS hard to keep comments enabled on a site like LJ when I don't feel I can trust it to protect my privacy.

That's why it feels hurtful to ME when someone I consider a friend makes it seem like staying in touch with me is not important enough to create a log-in somewhere else to do so. I never told everyone "hey, I'm moving totally to DW, screw you if you don't, I'm locking the door here completely." There's also this thing called messaging and email if someone wants to reply to something I posted if they don't want to bother with "another" account elsewhere.

*sigh* I'm just tired. And cranky. And it feels like everyone uses this whole DW vs. LJ thing in a way to wreck friendships instead of understanding it is about platforms different people feel safe on, in a changing environment. I'm sorry if you feel it means I'm shutting it out or making ultimatums because that is not my intention. Only for people who, as friends, to try to understand why it is important to me not to open up commenting on LJ again.

[gonzai55.livejournal.com]

Hey, I understood why you locked the LJ comments. And I never once complained about it. If I have something to comment I'll send you a PM. But I'm generally opposed to social media/networks, I can barely handle the ones I am involved with, and social networks have turned our office computers into malware zombies almost weekly. (Mine is about the only non-infected computer, because I only use LJ.) I'm not adding more to an already full plate.

So when you say if you won't join Dreamwidth then unfriend me, well, yeah, I figure that means you want me to unfriend you. Maybe you didn't mean everyone who won't join DW, but that's how it read to me.